Must Have Book for Moms: Lies Moms Believe (and How the Gospel Refutes Them) {Review}

A couple weeks ago I stumbled upon a fellow mom blogger looking for people to review her new soon-to-be-released book. I love books and I enjoy writing reviews so I offered. Little did I know that this book was exactly what I needed at exactly this time. But, of course, God knew. I have no doubt His hand was all over me seeing the post on Facebook asking for reviewers.

The ebook version of the brand new book Lies Moms Believe (and How the Gospel Refutes Them) released today! I feel very strongly that every mom, and anyone who is thinking of becoming a mom, needs to read this book. I can pretty much guarantee you will find at least a few lies you have been believing about yourself and motherhood in this book. The freedom and peace that comes from seeing these lies crumble in the face of scripture are simply amazing.

Lies Moms Believe and how the Gospel refutes them book review Biblical encouragement for moms

The book contains 32 chapters each addressing a single lie. The lies are grouped into five categories. Each lie stands alone so you wouldn’t necessarily need to read them all in order. If there is a specific area of your life where you are struggling you can find a lie pertaining to that area and just read that chapter. The chapters are pretty short, around two to five pages. I read the book pretty quickly both because I wanted to get this review up on release day, and because I just couldn’t get enough! I would suggest reading a lie a day, look up the verses, pray for God to reveal how the lie has been impacting your life, and let yourself mull it over for a bit.

Rebekah combats each lie with scripture. She doesn’t make wide assertions that can’t be backed up or do mental gymnastics with scripture to make it say what she wants. She goes right to the Word of God and weighs what the world tells moms against what God says about us, our kids, and parenting. Then she challenges you to go to scripture yourself and test her words. Breaking down some of these lies hurts a bit, I described it to one friend as sandpaper. It can be a bit rough as it knocks off some hard edges we have developed. But it is also encouraging and refreshing to know we don’t have to live under some of the burdens we have been carrying.

Now, I have a confession to make. I didn’t read Rebekah’s bio (which I’ll put below) before I read the book. I’m glad I didn’t because honestly, it may have created a mental block for me. I’m not proud of this fact but I’m going to be honest about it because someone out there may have the same thoughts I would have had, and I do NOT want that to prevent you from reading this book. I have five kids and my oldest is 12, Rebekah has two young children. It isn’t that I would have considered myself more of or a better mom, but I would probably have questioned what a younger mom with younger children could tell me that I don’t already know. Oh, the pride. Yep, that is a weakness of mine. I’m so thankful that didn’t happen because she definitely had some things to tell me that I am so thankful I read with an open mind! Sometimes a fresher set of eyes and a less cluttered perspective is exactly what we need.

Lies Moms Believe and how the Gospel refutes them book review Biblical encouragement for moms

I hope I have convinced you to buy this book. If you read it with an open mind and prayerful spirit I have no doubt that it will change your life, your marriage, and your parenting for the better. With 32 common struggles, you are bound to find some areas you need to work on. I’m convinced there is not a mom out there who wouldn’t benefit from this. 

The ebook is available as of today! A companion study guide and the physical book will be released March 30, 2018. I am very excited about the study guide! So excited that I have decided to host an online Bible study in April; if that is something you are interested in make sure to subscribe to my mailing list with the form in the sidebar to stay up-to-date on the details!

About Rebekah: 

Lies Moms Believe and how the Gospel refutes them book review Biblical encouragement for momsRebekah Hargraves is a wife, mama of two littles, home business owner, podcaster, and blogger residing in TN. Her passion is to bless fellow Christian women through her writings on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth, which exists to “edify, equip, and encourage women in their journey of Biblical womanhood”. Rebekah’s first book, “Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)”, releases in November.

You can learn more about Rebekah and follow her writing on:

Her Website – Hargraves Home and Hearth

Instagram – @rebekahhargraves

Facebook – Hargraves Home and Hearth

Twitter – @hhomeandhearth





*I received a free copy of the ebook Lies Moms Believe in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are genuinely and solely my own.*

The Everyday Family Chore System {Review}

Lately, our chore system has not been working as well as it used to and I really needed to find a way to get us back on track so I was thrilled to get the opportunity to review The Everyday Family Chore System from Everyday Homemaking.

The Everyday FAMILY Chore System

This is a great book available in digital or print versions. I definitely recommend the digital since you will want to print the forms in the back and printing as many copies as you like is easier than copying in my opinion! It is a quick read with lots of great tips.

The book is divided into three parts. Part one gives an overview and basic tips on child training that is a necessary foundation for getting kids to do chores. The second part contains instructions and a variety of tips for implementing the system. There are suggestions given on several different ways the program could look in your home so you can tailor it to fit your needs. The last section contains all of the forms you will need to implement the system.

I had been thinking we were going to have to scrap our chore system altogether and start from scratch but after reading the section on how to implement this system I was thrilled to realize I could incorporate the tools and tips provided in this book into my current system to make it function better. There were several ideas I was able to implement such as clothes-pinning the chore cards to my kids to help them stay focused.

The instruction cards, which are provided in a printable format, are a wonderful tool and have reduced the amount of assistance and correction my kids need by spelling out exactly what is expected. The provided cards are wonderful and help to get the system going right away and I will be slowly replacing each of them with personalized cards tailored to my own home and preferences.

As I have time I will also be incorporating pictures and instructions posted on the wall into our cleaning and chore system to provide my kids with even more guidance and direction for completing chores thoroughly and correctly.

One of my very favorite parts of this book is the comprehensive list of chores that children should be able to complete at specific ages. The list gives both a suggested age to start teaching the chore and an age at which the child should be able to complete the chore independently. This is so helpful for me both in closing chores to assign and keeping realistic expectations of my children. I will also be using it as a sort of checklist of skills that my kids should be learning at specific ages. Even if that particular chore is not a child’s regular chore I will make sure they do it for a time in the specified age so that they know how to do it when they are out on their own.

Everyday homemaking everyday family chore system

This is a great resource for any busy mom. It is flexible can be used on its own as a complete chore system or you can incorporate the tips and tools into your current chore system.

Let me know in the comments if you plan to try out The Everyday Family Chore System.

This is a Review Crew review. Vicky Bentley has also written Everyday Cooking which was reviewed by several crew members. Click the graphic below to check out more reviews on both titles!

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Back To HomeSchool – Outside Enrichment Activities

This post is part of my Back To HomeSchool Series, see the Series Intro and index to all posts in the series here.


I have just recently reached the stage where I have multiple kids involved in different activities. This is a whole new ballgame and sometimes I feel like I’m running around like a crazy person!! The struggle to balance giving your kids lots of opportunities to explore and learn new things and having enough down time at home is real! Here is a little about what we do and at the end I’ll put my current guidelines for trying to maintain sanity!

Back to HomeSchool extracurricular activities

Classical Conversations – I mentioned this in my curriculum post, this is our weekly (during the school year) homeschool group. Coop isn’t exactly the right term for it but in overly simple terms we get together weekly with other homeschoolers for a community school day.

Back to HomeSchool extracurricular activities

American Heritage Girls – My girls have done AHG through the Trailblazer program for the last three years (Trailblazer is for girls who do not live close enough to an existing troop to attend). It has been a great experience but we all definitely felt like we were missing a little something not being part of a troop. We are joining a real troop this year and are very excited about it! It is a bit of a commute but not too bad.

Back to HomeSchool extracurricular activities

Trail Life – My son has been asking to do scouts too and the church that hosts AHG also hosts Trail Life at the same time so it will work out wonderfully. They even have a scout program for preschoolers so all of my kids except the baby will have something to do during that time.

Both of the above scout programs are Christ-centered scouting opportunities.

4-H – We started 4-H last year when we arrived in Kansas but we really didn’t get it at all so we pretty much let it just fall off our plate. That was probably best for the first part of this year but after attending the county fair my kids are really looking forward to going back to 4-H and actually doing projects this year. We will see how that goes. Three of my kids will be actively involved in 4-H this year.

AWANA – We LOVE AWANA. We have been involved in AWANA for about six years now. We use the AWANA work as our homeschool Bible class. This year I will have a child in every level of AWANA except Journey. Our church offers Puggles for volunteer children and I will be volunteering so again everyone will be involved!

Tae Kwan Do – My oldest son is currently in Tae Kwan Do a couple days a week. He is really enjoying it and I’m enjoying the confidence and challenge it is giving him. My second son will probably start at the beginning of next year. The girls are interested in it as well but for right now they aren’t involved.

Back to HomeSchool extracurricular activities

Baton Twirling – My girls are doing competitive baton twirling. The benefit of this is that I am their coach so it doesn’t involve going somewhere weekly! Of course, the competitions require travel but that is mostly during a specific season.

Back to HomeSchool extracurricular activities

That is what my kids are currently involved in. There are many more activities they would like to try out but for now, this feels like enough. We will see how it goes throughout the year.

I am definitely still figuring out how to balance our time and the right amount of outside activities for our family but here are a few guidelines I’ve put in place:

  • The more family members who can participate in the activity the higher it is on the priority list.
  • We must have one full day a week at home.
  • We will only schedule activities one to two Saturdays a month.
  • We can’t be out in the mornings more than one day a week in addition to our CC day.


Back to HomeSchool extracurricular activities


What outside activities does your family participate in? How do you prevent outside activities from taking over your family? Share in the comments!!

This post is part of the Review Crew Back to School Blog Hop, check out the link up below for other posts about incorporating outside activities into homeschool.



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Back To Homeschool Blog Hop – Intro

It’s back to school time for most people! In my family, we don’t completely stop schooling over the summer but we generally change things up and have a reduced load. So while this time of year is not completely back to school, we are still gearing up and preparing for fall activities and re-establishing our “school-year” routines. (Why am I ALWAYS re-establishing routines???)


Need some new ideas?

For homeschoolers, this is often the time of year we are looking for fresh ideas on keeping homeschool fun, keeping up with the workload, balancing everything, and generally doing a good job with this huge task. An opportunity for you to get tons of new ideas is coming your way!


New Homeschooler or Considering Homeschooling?

The other thing that tends to happen this time of year when you are a “veteran” homeschooler is people start asking lots of questions about how to homeschool because they are wondering if it could work for them. Well here is a chance for those of you just starting out or wondering if homeschooling could be a good option for your family to get ideas, tips, and resources from a variety of veteran homeschoolers. 


Back to Homeschool Annual Blog Hop - 2017


Next week I will be participating in the Review Crew Back To Homeschool Blog Hop! We will be linking up with all sorts of homeschool information, tips, and resources that you won’t want to miss if you homeschool or are thinking about homeschooling!


Here is a rundown of the topics and schedule for the week:

I will be posting at least three of these, possibly four or all five if I manage to find the time! I will link each of my blog posts to this post once they are written. Any days I don’t get a post written I will link the main blog hop post so you can see what everyone else wrote!


Back to HomeSchool Series intro


It is going to be a fun week, I’m looking forward to reading about how my fellow Crew members organize their homeschools!

Click on the banner below to check out who else is participating in this hop or scroll down to see the linky of participants!


Back to Homeschool Annual Blog Hop - 2017