Welcome to our monthly discussion of The Life Giving Home (take 2)! Today we will be discussing the February chapters in both the book and study guide. If have not had a chance to read them feel free to catch up and join the discussion later! If you don’t yet have the books click below to order them:
How this study works:
- On the last Friday of each month, I will post my overall thoughts on the chapter for the upcoming month and what suggestions from that chapter I plan to try. I will also share how things are going with previous ideas I have tried.
- In our Facebook Book Club, we will discuss the chapter in more detail and work through the questions in the study guide.
- I will check in with everyone weekly in the book club group to see how we are all doing implementing suggestions from the book.
- You can also interact in the comments to discuss your thoughts on the chapter and/or link up your own blog post discussing the chapter using the linky.
Update from Last Month:
The year has started off a bit crazy. We have had a very busy month and didn’t accomplish as much in our schedules and routines as I had hoped. That said, we have fallen into at least somewhat better morning and bedtime routines. I’m still working on getting in the habit of offering my children a morning blessing – words of encouragement do not come naturally to me but I’m working on fixing that. I have listed out all of my activities and prioritized them and created an ideal schedule to work towards following. I don’t expect most days to fit the ideal but it gives me a structure to work within.
I am slowly and steadily working on my other goals but, as expected, they take time and won’t happen overnight.
My Thoughts on February:
It doesn’t come as a surprise that Sally chooses to focus on love in the month of February. I have to admit I’m a bit of a scrooge when it comes to Valentine’s Day. It isn’t that I’ve had bad experiences or anything has caused me to dislike the holiday, it has just always felt like an overcommercialized thing where people are convinced to spend a bunch of money on junk to “show their love.” I prefer to show (and receive) love throughout the year in unexpected and authentic ways.
But, I can see how this could be made to be a special and memorable time for my kids, especially after Sally describes the different things she has done with her kids for Valentine’s. I still doubt I will make a huge deal out of it but I do like some of her ideas and, of course, ways to show love can and should be incorporated all year.
I love how Sally describes our love for our children as a way to open their hearts to the love of God. She also reiterates the importance of affirming and encouraging words and admonishes us to focus on what really matters!
Next, Sally discusses good manners. She says “the true heart of good manners is treating people with respect and showing them honor through the ways we behave.” I love this definition and will be teaching it to my children. Good manners aren’t about making OURSELVES look good, but about showing honor to OTHERS. She also talks about how honoring others teaches us (and our children) to honor God by building pathways in our brain for honor and humility. Sally then goes on to talk about practical ways she taught her kids manners, tips I will definitely be using in my family.
The next section discusses Love Languages. I love The Five Love Languages books and highly recommend them to others. The concept of love languages has been transformational in how I understand and relate to those around me. Sally lists some other ways to “speak” love that can be incorporated into how you interact with your kids, spouse, friends, and extended family. I have also found that teaching my children about love languages can help them better understand how to treat others.
Birthdays is the next topic of discussion. This is something I need to get better at. I am trying to think up some birthday traditions we can incorporate into our family. Right now we have a fun day out with dinner at a restaurant of the birthday child’s choosing on a day close to the birthday when everyone can be together. On the actual day, the birthday child chooses all of the meals and is exempt from chores and school work for the day. I would like to come up with a few more ideas to make the day special.
There are a few other ideas in the rest of the chapter for ways to show love in your family. I really like the idea of “teatime discipleship.” Everything in this chapter can be summed up with the idea of showing love by spending time, honoring those around you, and being generous with words of affirmation.
One quote in the chapter really hit home for me: “Machines may have distracted you from those who long for your attention every day but have become accustomed to your passivity in their lives.” My prayer is that my kids and husband do not ever become accustomed to my passivity in their lives. I need to make more of an effort to show active engagement, interest, and presence in their lives on a daily basis. I am putting some strict boundaries in place for myself in regards to computer and phone use to accomplish this.
My Life Giving Goals for February:
- Continue working on giving my kids a daily morning blessing.
- Continue working on our schedules, routines, and household organization.
- Cut down on my computer and phone time and keep those to designated times of the day.
- Brainstorm new ways to make birthdays special.
- Teach my kids to honor others with their manners using Sally’s “Stop, Look, Listen” method and list of manners.
- Cut out colorful paper hearts and write a child’s name and words of affirmation on each one and hide them where that child will find them throughout the month of February.
Share your thoughts on the January Chapters of The Life Giving Home and The Life Giving Home Experience. You have 3 ways to share:
- Here on the blog in a comment
- In the Facebook Book Club Group
- On your own blog via the Link-up below
- ONLY link-up a post that discusses the January chapter of The Life Giving Home book.
- Copy and past the linkup button into your post or blog sidebar (or at least create a text link back to this post).
- Visit at least one other post in the link-up.
- (Optional) Share this post on Social Media to spread the word!
I am hosting a Facebook discussion group for this study. We will delve deeper into the book and discuss the study guide. We can keep each other accountable and encourage each other in our goals and efforts in creating our own Life Giving Homes. I look forward to seeing you there!
I will post my thoughts on the March chapter and what ideas I plan to try on February 23rd.